Frequently Asked Questions

  • No.

    SSA is the result of interactions of temperament, childhood trauma, relationship with the parent of the same sex, relationship with the parent of the opposite sex, interaction with same sex peers, cultural and media advertisement.

    Persons with SSA have normal blood work, EKG, EEG brain CT scan, hormonal level and genetic testing.

    In the early 1990’s, there were 3 double blind studies that were received by pro-homosexual media with cheers and excitement: the twin’s study, the hypothalamus study (part of the brain) and the birth order study. On further investigations, the scientific community rejected these studies either for lack of sufficient evidence, the study sample being small or the study could not be replicated with the same results. The media excitement soon evaporated.

    In 2011, Lady Gaga has a song by the title: “Born This Way”. The media showered her with best album, and gave her many accolades. Although (born this way) should be a statement based on objective medical or scientific research, the media used a desensitization technique to numb the feeling of the masses, enhanced by beautiful music and repeated rhyming lyrics. The album sold 2 million copies!

    So far, there is no one respected medical study that proves that people with SSA are born this way.

    • Dr. Robert Stoller (1924-1991) - Professor of Psychiatry at UCLA (authored 9 books, co-authored 3 books, published 115 articles). His theory is about lack of detachment of the male child from his mother in the separation-individuation phase. His opinion is the root of male homosexuality starts at 24-36 months of age.

    • Dr. Robert Spitzer (1932 – 2015) - A Professor of Psychiatry at Columbia University stated: “Like most psychiatrists, I thought that homosexual behavior could only be resisted and that no one could really change their sexual orientation.  I now believe that to be false. Some people can and do change” - [Archives of sexual behavior, Oct.2003, volume 32, No.5, pp 403-417]

  • No. Showing acceptance means offering your child unconditional love—not approval of behavior. You can say, “I love you as you are, and I do not approve of this particular behavior.” It's important to separate the person from the action. Acceptance opens the door to trust and communication.

  • Yes, by the grace of God, and through following the steps offered in the training, along with prayer, patience, and unconditional love from parents, many individuals have experienced change. We encourage you to watch the testimonies section on our web site for real-life examples.

  • This is a battle of love—and the one who loves the most will eventually win. It's common for children to doubt whether the change in their parents is real or just temporary. They will test you. Be patient, stay consistent, love them unconditionally, and pray continually. Trust in God’s timing and let your actions speak louder than words.

    1. Take a deep breath – then listen and learn:  Find books and other resources that address the development of same-sex attraction.  Educating yourself on the contributing factors of same-sex attraction may be very enlightening and painful.

    2. Give yourself permission to grieve:  As parents, you might feel guilt and say, “I was an imperfect parent”- this is true, but we parents make mistakes; “I caused my child’s homosexuality,”- this statement is totally false and the biggest lie you will have to stand against.  No one person has the power to cause another’s homosexuality.   The book “Someone I Love is Gay” is a must-read for anyone navigating the experience of learning that a loved one identifies as gay.

    3. Find some support: As a parent, attend the Ark monthly meetings.  For your son/daughter, get in touch with:  www.hisbeloved.co

    4. Examine your expectations: Parents rarely want their children to grow up to become homosexuals, and your greatest desire is probably for your child to leave the gay lifestyle.  People have left homosexuality but be wary of allowing your hope to become an expectation.

    5. Pray: God’s word states that “the prayer of a righteous man is powerful and effective” (James 5:16). This is a truth that you must always stand on.  Never cease to pray, regardless of how tiresome your burden may seem.  Your loved one must confess his or her sin for healing to take place.  With prayers, miracles happen!

  • Most likely, your brother has sensed for years that homosexuality was the taboo of all taboos in your home and at church.  The silent pain your brother has endured for years, along with the shame he has felt about his homosexuality, has finally come to a boil.  He wants to announce it to take control of the situation and to feel empowered.  As a family member, take a deep breath, and practice self-control.  Don’t do anything to fuel the situation.  Your brother’s emotions are running high as are yours.  Take the time to regroup as a family, apart from him, seek support, pray, and come back together with a plan that will benefit all involved.  Never stop fighting for him.  Prayer is your real weapon.

  • The removal of homosexuality from psychiatric manuals was not driven by scientific discoveries proving people are "born that way," but rather by intense political activism, lobbying, and sustained social pressure on the American Psychiatric Association (APA) during the 1960s and 1970s. These efforts aimed to influence changes to the DSM (Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders)—the official handbook used by mental health professionals in the U.S. and many other countries to diagnose and classify mental health conditions.

    In the DSM-I (1952) and DSM-II (1968)—the APA’s diagnostic manuals—homosexuality was categorized as a mental disorder, grouped with other so-called "sexual deviations" like transvestism and pedophilia​​.

    As the gay rights movement grew, activists launched a coordinated campaign that included:

    • Public demonstrations at APA conventions;

    • Media efforts exposing contradictions in psychiatric logic; and

    • Internal advocacy, with sympathetic professionals pushing for change from within​​​.

    A pivotal moment occurred in 1972 at the APA’s annual meeting, when Dr. John Fryer, a gay psychiatrist speaking anonymously, testified about the discrimination faced by LGBTQ+ professionals. Activists emphasized that homosexuality did not cause distress or impair social or occupational functioning, key criteria in the APA’s definition of mental illness​​.

    In 1973, following these internal and external pressures, the APA Board of Trustees voted to remove homosexuality from the DSM.  A 1974 membership referendum confirmed the decision, with 58% approval, despite the lack of new biological / medical or clinical evidence​​.

    The APA stated at the time:

    “Homosexuality, per se, implies no impairment in judgment, stability, reliability, or general social or vocational capabilities.” — APA Statement, post-1973 vote​​

    However, the APA also clarified that it did not recognize homosexuality as a “normal variant” of human sexuality—a detail often overlooked today​.

    In summary, the declassification of homosexuality from the DSM was driven primarily by political and social activism, not by scientific consensus or the emergence of new biological evidence.